Allow yourself the space to ask, 'What's going on with me?'

Dena Domenicali-Rochelle is an interpersonal psychoanalyst and social worker whose first priority is helping her clients develop a clearer understanding of themselves. Dena specializes in working with people navigating dating and relationships, demanding careers, anxiety and depression, and new parents.

New
Parenthood —

Parenting a newborn requires a new kind of rigorous teamwork with your partner in a period of life marked by intense change, exhaustion and uncertainty. It may not go well at first and that’s ok.

Dating +
Relationships —

Everybody goes a little bit crazy at the beginning of a relationship. Is that a massive generalization? Yes. Have I also found it to be true? Absolutely.

Demanding
Careers —

If you’re in a high pressure, demanding career, remember… the expectations of your job may make you feel like mistakes are failures. They aren’t. Mistakes are inevitable. They aren’t a reflection of your capacity or competence.

Anxiety +
Depression —

Anxiety can take a turn into paranoia when it’s at its worst. Paranoid thinking is not realistic thinking. It lacks nuance and complexity and real life is very nuanced and complex.

  • If you have a really big emotional reaction to something, it’s important to be curious about your experience.

  • The ability to be vulnerable translates as confidence. Confidence is sexy. Know what your (emotional) mess is and be able to own it and talk about it.

  • In relationships, generosity is contagious. Prioritize how you and your partner feel, not who’s right and who’s wrong.

Trust that you’re loveable and likeable.

Trust that you’re loveable and likeable.